It couldn't be one or the other. Finn couldn't accept not having Poe at all or allowing himself to be used like that. There had to be a middle ground.

"You can control yourself. I know you can. You don't want to hurt me or do something that I don't want or- or-... You want us as much as I do. I know you'll do everything you can to make it happen.

"That's what you wanted, right? Take care of me? Make me happy? This is how."