He could feel how close Poe was to snapping, deciding to get this rolling quickly. Then another, darker thought occurred to him... Was he only doing this now to avoid being forced by Poe later?

No, he couldn't do that to himself. Finn pushed the thought down and turned to Poe after the door was shut.

"We talked about communication before, about setting boundaries and only going as far as we agreed. I think you're ready to try. Do you think so? Or do you want that at all?"

Maybe he was the one reading Poe wrong now. But that's okay because of the magic of communication.